If you haven’t already, go read part 1 to this story before you read this part, otherwise you’ll probably be pretty confused!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not here to mom shame. I hardcore struggle with juggling my household responsibilities with making sure my kids don’t kill themselves. I can absolutely sympathize with the struggle of motherhood, and I could clearly see April was having a hard time. I think she tended to take her frustrations out on her son. There was a huge disconnect with her disciplining him. She seemed to alwaya go straight for hitting him, and it was to the point where this kid did not respond to spanking or slapping of any kind. He was basically immune to her punishments because of how frequently she hit him, which was well beyong simple spanking no matter if you agree with spanking or not. I suspected her husband was physically violent with this child as well, though there were few times when anyone witnessed anything substantial in public. Erin was always extremely careful to keep his abuse behind closed doors so no one could get him in trouble. This played a huge part in the end of the investigations opened on them.

I’ll try to summarize all Erin did as best I can so you can fully understand what kind of person he was/is: He continuously bought his wife gifts and then broke them during their next argument (destroyed countless TVs; destroyed many phones, both cheap and expensive, one of them likely being the one I bought his wife because this scum bag refused to provide for his own family; let her buy makeup for herself them poured it in tue toilet and peed on it; let her buy a few new articles of clothing then lit them on fire amd burned holes in them on their patio). He cheated on her with multiple women (this includes women whose ads he repsonded to on Craigslist…ew. He also set up dates with a trans woman on a dating app, and tried to hit up my married friend who is black american. This wouldn’t normally be strange for anyone else, except Erin was openly very racist and very judgemental of those in the LGBT community). He blew the vast majority of their money on food/workout gear for himself (I’ve seen the emails exchanged with his dealers, steroids are EXPENSIVE as hell and he purchased them often) to the point where April could not afford to provide for herself and their son and their own child was so skinny, you could see just about all of his bones. He locked his wife and child purposefully out of the house twice and they had to come stay in my house because they had absolutely nowhere to go and no reaources to provide for themselves. He took his wife off their bank account so she had zero access to any money, and she had never had a job because he forbade her from working. He hit her on several occasions, usually somehwere that would not show a bruise easily like her head (any bruise there would be hidden by hair. One time he actually shoved her in her abdomen not long after she found out she was pregnant, and she miscarried that baby a short time after). He would take her car and move it to an undisclosed location so she couldn’t use it or would take her keys so she couldn’t get into her own car or her own house without him there. He controlled her to the point where she would not leave the house and was not allowed to go a certain distance away from the house… And if she did, she had to take pictures of herself along the way and send them to him so he had solid documentation that she was not lying about where she was going. He ripped her child from her and hid the child at a stranger’s house for several hours sitting in a poopy diaper (he claimed to be “spending time with his son” but was pacing in view of the distraught mother while the chikd was sitting in a stranger’s house and would bring the child out in the open periodically just to see her completely flip out. He would wrench the child away from her grasp with NO regard for the child’s saftety when she tried to take her baby out of his arms). He “lost” all of her important documents like her birth certificate, driver’s license, military dependant ID (I think he “lost” her social security card too. Of course this wasn’t actually an accident on his part. Anyone familiar with military life knows how important a dependant’s ID is. She can’t stop anywhere on base without it, but she can’t leave base because she needs to have her military ID to get back on base due to the base being protected by gates staffed with armed guards who scan your ID as you drive onto the base). He bought her weed, which is not only illegal to take on base, but she is a minor and it is illegal for him to give it to her (the first time police were involved, he thought she was going to snitch on him so he threw her under the bus and told the police she smoked weed in their house on base). There’s probably so much more that I’m missing, but this is what I can remember at the moment. It was such a long battle to try to help April through everything that happened. Erin strikes me as having a textbook case of narcissistic personality disorder. Every other sentence out of his mouth is always a lie, and when you try to tell him he’s doing something wrong, he attacks you and points out your flaws and proceeds to victimize himself. I tried telling April my suspicion of NPD and tried to explain to her what it is, but her response was something like, “I know what it is, I took a psychology class in high school. I’m a little narcissistic too. Like I lie sometimes and have a hard time admitting when I’m wrong.”

First of all, high school psychology? Just… Lol. As you can see, she’s an expert in this field. She has literally no awareness of his manipulation. It’s ridiculous. She used to tell me, “I know I’m stupid for staying with him,” or, “I know I’m stupid for believing this thing he said.” I would tell her she’s not stupid, just in a bad relationship with a manipulative person. I am not ashamed to wholeheartedly admit I was most definitely wrong. She really is stupid, and it took me way too long to see it.

So let’s jump to where things got really insane. April found out Erin was cheating yet again, but instead of confronting him and having another CPS case opened against her due to her son witnessing the confrontation, she removed herself and her son from their house and walked across the sidewalk to my house. I tried my best to console her as she told me what was going on. Erin, however, locked himself in their house while she was venting to me. She was so distraught when she left her house, she didn’t take anything except her son, who was just sitting in a diaper. It was already late, so she wanted to get supplies for her child, like more diapers, clothes, his cup, and some snacks. Yet her trashy husband would not let her in the house to provide for their son. This was when I finally reached my breaking point. I had been silent this long because I knew if I went to the police, April would just lie for yer husband and nothing would ultimately happen. But I was livid that this grown ass man had his pity stick shoved so far up his ass, he didn’t even have the decency to provide for his own flesh and blood. I texted him and told him if he didn’t stop fumbling with his whithered, steroid afflicted balls, I was going to call the cops. One way or another, this baby was going to get what he needed to get through the night. After sending me a few barely coherent texts attempting to insult me, Erin left a few diapers on the sidewalk and left with the house still locked.

Obviously a few diapers was just not going to cut it. So after Erin left, April and I called our neighborhood’s 24 hr maintenance hotline. She told them she needed her house unlocked for her yet again. They said they would need to see a valid ID, but she didn’t have one because her husband purposefully lost them. She ended up having to explain that her pos husband locked her out of the house in a tantrum and he took her IDs and car, so the best she could offer was an expired state ID that only maybe was still in the house. Thank god the maintenance worker they sent over was a smart man who suspected there was abuse going on. He called police, who showed up the same time the maintenance worker did. This was around midnight, so April was so physically tired and emotionally drained, she started actually telling the police officers the truth when they asked her questions. She had me there to back her up, which probably helped her feel confident enough to open up and be honest. One of the officers pulled me to the side and asked if I had anything to share privately. Boy did I lay it on that poor man. I told him so much in a span of a few minutes. They ended up entering the house to make sure Erin wasn’t there. He wasn’t, but surprised! This b*tch ass ran off to dump his steroid stash! So April helped hunt down empty steroid jars and the police found all Erin’s needles he left behind. The officers and investigators documented absolutely everything. We stayed with them for several hours as officers and Erin’s unit searched for him while the investigators photographed everything in the house. He showed up to the house at one point, obviously enraged. The investigators apprehended him and patted him down before taking him outside so he would be a safe distance from April. It was a very long, stressful night.

Stay tuned for part 3! Part 3 is when all the really juicy stuff comes out!